Good Morning Wild Ones!
Today’s post is about how to get over self-disappointment.
When you truly lose all of your excuses and begin to take full ownership of your mistakes, it becomes extraordinarily easy to get disappointed in yourself. So while keeping a standard of excellence can be one of the most beneficial things that you do in your life, it also carries an inherent danger of perfectionism and setbacks due to self-disappointment. After all, excellence is a very high standard, and we are very fallible human beings.
There was a time when I used to get quite frazzled after disappointing myself, but I came up with some ways to combat this issue which may also be helpful to you. One of my favorite quotes says that
‘Every morning is another opportunity to be better than you were yesterday.’
I usually keep it on my dry erase board, my affirmation wall, and most importantly my mind. So every morning that I wake up, I am excited for another opportunity to be better. This has been the biggest help for me during times of self-disappointment. If today is an opportunity to be better than I was yesterday I can, not so much to fix the mistakes of yesterday, but grow from the mistakes of yesterday. And if I REALLY sucked yesterday then that gives me an even GREATER opportunity for growth today.
The second way I combat disappointment in myself is to sit down for 10 minutes and literally just think. During this time, I’d recommend thinking about things that you’ve done well recently along with things that you did poorly. But when thinking about what you did poorly, don’t just beat yourself up, instead think about what you learned. Do not focus on your faults, but instead focus on the growth and development that you’re receiving from your past failures.
The last bit of advice that I could give you is to keep in communion with God. I’m not sure what your higher being is, but when you truly put your identity in God, it becomes more difficult to get disappointed in yourself. When you know that He is always working it out for your good and that your failures do not define you, you are able to walk with your head held high in spite of your shortcomings.
‘If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.’-2 Chronicles 7:14
‘And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.’-Romans 8:28
‘I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them.’-Isaiah 42:16
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”-Philippians 4:6-7
“And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.”-2 Corinthians 12:9-10