Good morning my Wild Ones,
Tears flowing like the rivers of Babylon. I’m hurt ya’ll…like real hurt. My mom sits there, somehow able to understand the garbled words between both the cries and the exaggerated attempts to catch my breath. ‘I…can’t…believe…she did…that’.
The thing is, this girl had shown me her character far before, but I really liked her. So in my mind, I had to both forgive and forget in order to make our friendship work. I was the ‘when I like you, I like you’ type. A bit older, and a bit wiser, I can no longer say I’m that type. I’ve since realized that not everyone is meant to be everything for you. I’m going to say it again for the people in the back. NOT EVERYONE IS MEANT TO BE EVERYTHING FOR YOU!
I made a ‘going out friend’ a ‘best friend’, so I can’t be mad when she doesn’t live up to best friend standards. Well I could, but that would be futile.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
When people show you their character, believe them.
You’ve heard this from your parents, grandparents, friends, and now you’re about to hear it from me. People know themselves more than you do, so when they let you know who they are, don’t second guess. Don’t assume they’re confused. Don’t believe that you know better than them because you don’t.
Not everything is that serious to you.
Fam, you don’t have to act like you’re mad when you really don’t care. I have a friend who lies to me about their business…even when I don’t ask. They’re private and although I find it unnecessary, it’s not that serious to me. For a lot of people, this is a deal breaker, but I honestly just laugh it off and keep moving. Because they’re a good person but with flaws. That brings us to the next point…
Don’t be so quick to throw people away.
As humans, we all have issues. The question is what issues will you accept. As a former ‘when I like you, I like you’ type, me and people were often either best friends or mortal enemies. That’s not healthy y’all. One of my biggest life lessons has been that everyone has something to give you, and you miss out whenever you don’t get to know them. That doesn’t mean that everyone is going to be your best friend, but you always benefit when you
Accept people for what they are in your life. Everyone has their role to play, but have boundaries.
You see the friend who lies about their personal business. I love them, and we’re good friends. Still, I know that I can’t believe everything that comes out of their mouth and although I am okay with that, it places limitations on our friendship. There are boundaries around the questions I ask, the answers I give in return, the trust I put in their word, and ultimately how deep our friendship can go. Does that mean that I throw them away, of course not. Instead, I spend time loving those I love.
I accept the things I want to accept while accepting that I can neither control, expect, nor accept everything.
And honestly, my life is so much better for it.
So in conclusion remember:
- When people show you their character, believe them.
- Not everything is that serious to you and you don’t have to act like it is.
- Don’t be so quick to throw people away.
- Accept people for what they are in your life. Everyone has their role to play, but have boundaries.
- Not everyone is meant to be everything for you!
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Sending tons of love,